This piece has been inspired by a book I have been reading the last couple of months. It gives you some tips on how to be proactive as opposed to being reactive, which many of us tend to be. Many say to be proactive is difficult and that there are too many things to be done within limited time. NO, it is a choice you make as an individual. It is more than just taking initiative but being responsible for your own life.
Proactive people recognize and are responsible for their behaviors and don’t blame genetics, circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior whereas reactive people are often affected by their physical environment. They find external sources to blame for their behavior. The choices we make in life are highly dependent on you and you alone. If you choose sadness, you get sadness. You choose procrastination, you procrastinate. You choose failure, you fail. You choose, success, you succeed…..and the list is endless!
Just remember that every moment, every situation, provides a new choice. And in doing so, it gives you a perfect opportunity to do things differently to produce more positive results.
1.Don’t be highly influenced by the social weather/status, you have the freedom to make a choice. For example in your social environment, you find that people are warm and nice you, they confide in you on various issues affecting them professionally or personally – you feel good and are happy. So, if you are easily stimulated by the social environment, you are reactive!
2.Be aware of your physical environment. If you are affected by the storm, the cold winters, the rain and this gets you down, lazy, procrastinated – you are reactive. Proactive people, regardless of their physical environment will disregard the environment and complete what they are set out to do – again, you should be responsible for be aware and responsible for your choices..
Just to sum it up : Proactive people focus their efforts on their Circle of Influence – these are things they can do something about for instance health, children, problems at work and use proactive language – I can, I will. Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern – things over which they have little or no control over such as terrorism, weather and use rective language – I can’t, I won’t..
So: What choice will you make – PROACTIVE or reactive?
Act but not be acted upon!